Disciplining your toddler can be a tricky job. Toddlers have a very unique way of viewing the world. Some can be extremely headstrong while others can be extremely fluid with their opinions. Parenting is not all-size-fits-all. Every child has a distinct demeanor and therefore a unique parenting method is required to manage it . However, certain tips may help you in disciplining your toddler.
First, let’s establish who are stubborn toddlers. If your child seems to delight in refusing opinions and instructions and likes to follow their own mind, chances are that they are stubborn. These kids are comparatively harder to discipline since they are wilful. Stubborn toddlers are known to deny simple biddings like taking a bath, eating food, arranging their toys. They would rather, get out of the bathtub persistently, create a mess of their meal and clutter their toys. It is imperative to note that this behaviour is normal for toddlers. Since they are undergoing multiple developmental changes, some tend to cope with the process by being strong-willed. All parents can relate when it said that a toddler’s to-do list goes like this:
– ask for a candy
-refuse the candy
-ask why the candy was taken away
-cry because you couldn’t have the candy
Here are some tips on how to deal with stubborn toddlers:
#1 every time behavior “no” will not work
If you keep on saying NO all the time, two things will happen: the word will lose its meaning and your child will keep on misbehaving. You don’t have to be “helicopter parents”, continuously trying to keep the young one in check. Say “no!” for things you can not allow at all.It is also helpful to explain to your child, by coming down to their level of understanding, why you are saying ‘no’ to something. Remember to not make a habit out of saying no even when it’s not necessary like a candy bar every once in a while. There should be a homeostatic balance of yes and no.
#2 Provide buzzers
Every parent knows what all activities their child loathes to do the most. Providing buzzers or hints about the impending activity will help prepare the child. For instance, if your child hates taking a bath, you can hint upon the necessary chore as follows: “in a few minutes, I will prepare the bathtub for your bath time.” or if they dislike coming back from the playground, use the following words: “in ten minutes we will have to start for home.”
#3 Don’t give into the tantrums
The more you pay attention to their tantrums the worse they get. Try ignoring their frenzies.If you know that you have the best intention at heart it is okay to not let all of your child’s wishes be fulfilled, even if it creates an embarrassing situation in public for you . Therefore, keep reminding yourself why you are denying the young one of a particular thing. Remember that your child does not know what is best for them.
#4 Make agreements
Never forget that your toddler is also a little person. Sometimes to have a respectful, healthy parent-child relationship we need to make agreements with our children. Advocate your reason and negotiate with them. For example, tell them that they can play after they are done with a particular table top activity and be fair in holding up your side of the agreement.
#5 Calm amidst crying
How to deal with a stubborn crying toddler can be more challenging than a rebellious toddler. These are the kids that tend to shriek at the top of their lungs in public places to get things done their way. The parent needs to stay calm. It takes a lot of willpower but it is the only effective way to deal. If you lose your cool and start reprimanding the child, matters will only get worse. Another way is to foretell the child what all is going to happen and what kind of behaviour is expected. Set a reinforcement as well if you find the need.
#6 Have a structure
Running a tight ship rarely ever helps. You need to have a structure that entails both the essential rules and some luxury for fun. Insisting on fixed bedtime is one example. You should lay out a framework of what the do’s and don’ts are. Let your kids know that skipping meals for playtime will not be tolerated. Nevertheless, ensure that they have plenty of time to play and have fun.
With these 6 tips on how to deal with difficult child behaviour, you are all set to embark on the mission of disciplining your child. Remember the process needs discipline at your end as well. You need to maintain your calm and stay consistent in your efforts.